Growing & Dying

If you’re not growing, you’re falling behind—there’s no such thing as staying stagnant, at least in my mind.

If you’re struggling, just write. Write down your biggest dreams, the future you envision, the partner you desire, and the person you want to become. It starts with accepting where you are, being grateful for what you have and how far you’ve come. Then, it comes down to putting pen to paper. Believe that you can land a job at your dream company. Be delusional about it. Envision yourself in that role.

Next, take action. Put yourself out there and drive forward with curiosity. Remember, curiosity fuels your interests, and those interests will guide you to where you’re meant to be. 

I hope you understand that taking no risks, not trying, is simply failing before you have even started. You’ve got 80/90 summers—80! So why the fuck are you not giving this live your all?

Dig into your trauma. Go to therapy. Work on yourself, both physically and mentally, and keep pushing to grow, even in tough times. Work through your past so you can become the adult you wished your parents could be. Be the role model your younger self needed.

If you’re feeling overwhelmed, start small. Grab a picture of your younger self and put it on your mirror. Every time you feel down or want to speak negatively to yourself, look at that picture. Envision how you were treated, or how you wished you’d been treated, and treat yourself that way. Do it for that young girl who played with dolls and held fashion shows, the one who dreamed of being a fashion designer. The girl who wanted to start her own business like her grandma, the one who dreamed of gardens bigger than those she tended as a child.

Show up for your younger self. I promise, your life will gain more purpose, and you’ll be less likely to give up on your dreams. Remember, you are your own best friend and the only one who will be with you until the end, so value the relationship you have within.